Tuesday, January 31, 2012

A Life Lesson On Relationships

There’s always a lesson to be learned when you’re in a relationship, the lessons maybe good or bad either way it will only make your next relationship better. Each relationship will have its own flaws and uncountable amount of happiness shared, but the lessons you learn from you previous relationships will only help to make things better. Memories are one of the best things that you will ever take away from a relationship, just remember the good ones to play over and over again in your mind, as for the negative once should be thrown far-far away even thou you remember every single bad moment. What ever that we been thru love is always wonderful and a part of us always wants to do it over and over again so never regret for falling in love and wanting to do it all over again as its one of the best gifts in life.

What I have learned from all that’s happened lately is never take your partner, husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend and etc ever for granted. At a certain point of your relationship you will start to get comfortable and forget to take care of yourself and your partner, you let lose and forget to care. When this happens it will take a great toll on your relationship even without you realizing its happening. Being comfortable has its areas not everything is meant to be shared, some things are best kept low and meant to be the small surprises a relationship can offer. Taking someone for granted is like saying directly to the person you don’t matter no more to me and I don’t need to impress you anymore. The dating game is fun and every relationship should be practicing and maintaining it no matter how long you have been together. Having mutual friends and hanging out together in a big group once awhile is always good, because there are things about our partner that maybe our friends know and we don’t and can help us to understand better.

As for my relationship it ended because the both of us got too comfortable and forgotten to care and make things between us exciting. Not to mention the things we did not bother to discuss or work it out cause we both always assumed that we won’t leave and being busy with our work and business. Relationship takes a lot of work and communication without either of this it’s hard to build a solid foundation. Communication is a key to a long lasting relationship cause we must be able to share and talk about things that worries us openly with our partner. No doubt we have been thru a lot and have managed to make it thru it all the obstacles, but somehow we as human manage to break love we build. What I feel now is like losing a part of me that I want back badly but won’t be able to patch it into a perfect piece, so giving it up is the best option then suffering or hurting each other just because we like each others company. It’s a sad situation but it has to be done before we landed up back in the same situation and feel even worst.

Everyone around us is still hoping we reconcile and get back together, because they say we made a great couple and have all the things needed to make a relationship work. Everyone is giving their opinion about the relationship but no one has stop to think what they should really do for us is just to be there in case we needed to talk or a shoulder to lean on. Yes no doubt we were could get along perfectly, compromise on many level, meet each other expectation and had the same plan for future. There is a part of me that wishes I could just could go back and change the things that made things to reach this level so no of this would have happened, but there is a saying that all things happens for a reason. I believe this test came to see how we would handle it and how strong our love was unfortunately we both failed miserably and allowed it to reach to this.

I love you more then I could ever imagine, but now I can see I have to let you go because I been proven wrong thinking that we “US” deserve another chance and we could make it. It hurts like F**King hell but it’s so clear we both have moved on in our own way, coming to a point we both don’t trust each other is for sure not a good sign to be trying to fix “US” again. I know the mistakes we made is mutual so there is no one really to be blame for us breaking what we have it happened mutually without us realizing it. It’s so sad to see “US” come to this but it’s far too late to fix anything anymore.

I love you my dear and I hope we both will find eternal happiness. :(

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